Why Elena’s Love is not Sire Bond Related: Most of their intimate and loving moments have been initiated by Elena. Elena looked for Damon to divulge her reasons for breaking up with Stefan. Her feelings towards him. Damon may have kissed her first but Elena initiated the sex. Ever since the they found out about the sire bond, Elena has initiated all physical contact between them. And finally she told him that she loved him w/o any sort of direction from Damon. Yes there may be a sire bond but as we’ve already been told, it’s a product of human emotions. And it’s plain to see by her motivations and actions that she is truly in love with him.